:Obesity Information for all

When we are moving along our weight loss journey…going from obese, possibly morbidly obese, to normal sized…we have a lot of decisions to make.

Some days…it is just about putting the right things in our mouths and moving in a way to get our metabolism going.  ON other days, we have bigger decisions to make.

What size do I want to be?

What size CAN I be?

Who am I when I am not this fat woman?

We all are heavy for our own special reasons…and to change that…permanently, we all have to answer some of these questions - and we all have to make the decision: that we are NOT fat.

That might sound like psychobabble…but hear me out.  We all have beliefs that we carry about ourselves and the world around us.  For those of us that are obese, (or were) we carry a belief that we are big.  Many of us, fail to see HOW big we are…often times for years at a time.  Some of us carry a belief that we are fat - though again, we may fail to see how obese we have gotten over time.  NONE of us carry a belief that we are a normal size…and that truly inhibits us as we move towards being a normal (average) size.

Don’t get me wrong…normal is not a standard of acceptance…in this case, it is a perspective.

What size clothes do you wear?  Currently the average American woman is a size 14 with a 34-37 inch waist, and the average American man has a 35-38 inch waist.

At size 28, I was…well, not a size 14, and frankly, I had never been a size 14 in my entire adult life.

So what business did I have deciding that was normal sized?  It was an essential part of my journey.

You see - if I continued to be a fat woman, losing weight…I would always be a fat woman.  Sounds redundant…but think of the consequences.  If I saw myself as ONLY a fat woman…no matter how much weight I lost, I would still be fat.  Not until I saw myself (my belief system) to be a normal (averaged) sized woman…that I could actually become that woman.

THAT is the decision we have to make…each of us.  Not to lose weight…that goes without mention.  But to decide to be something completely different.

My friend, Mandy Evans, helps people to breakout of their limiting beliefs.  I enthusiastically recommend you check out her site.

Essentially, think of something want that you feel only a miracle could bring to you…and then ask yourself why you can’t have it.  THOSE are your limiting beliefs.

I couldn’t be normal sized, because I am a big girl.  Why can’t I be normal sized?  Because I am a big girl.  There wasn’t even room in my thought process to be lean and strong…just to be a less-fat big girl.  Now…at 5′8″ and 190 pounds, and currently wearing a size 12-14…I am averaged size…but still bigger than a hollywood starlet.  But, I am AVERAGED sized…NO LONGER a big girl.

What if, you could be something different?  What would you be?  Think on it a bit…